You Can Check Me Out- But Don’t Let Me Catch You! by Mika July 23, 2008

Yesterday, as I was working at the university library, there were groups of teenagers and their parents bundling around the public computers to check out their first college courses. I can understand the chaos and even the frequent yelping of panic and joy; seeing that this was their first step into college, a life of unsure decision making. As sat at my desk, in front of my computer, a middle-aged man caught my eye. He was standing next to his daughter and wife who were checking the place out and also the daughter’s new schedule. I notcied that every time a young woman passed then by, he would follow her with his eyes. And I thought to myself, does this man know that he is being incredibly obvious? I personally think that it is fine to view those to whom you are attracted- but this man didn’t glance or look. He would Stare women down! What if one of them had notcied his constant, beady eyes? How would she feel and would she have said something? That’s definately something that I’ve thought about…

It brings me back to a time when I would catch a man who often studied in the library staring at my breasts. I must mention that I’m a 38D and I often show a little cleavage to gain attention, and also for my own enjoyment. One day, as I was helping a patron check-out books, I caught him looking at my breasts. When he finally noticed that I was looking at him, he looked away. Then another patron came to return books and I glanced at him. Again, his eyes were on my breasts. As this continued for the rest of the hour, I slowly got annoyed and upset with him. Why be so obvious?!

A few hours later, I was lunching with a few of my guy friends. We usually talk about anything- including sex. So as my anger carried from hours before, I told my friend, Brian, who sat on my right, the story. I asked, ” Why are men so obvious?!” He told me that not all men were; It was just that some didn’t know how not to be. He experimented with me and told me to sit facing him. We made mindless conversation for about a  minute and a half. Brian asked me if I noticed him looking at my breasts. I said no. He then told me that during our chat, he had taken 5 looks and I honestly had NO IDEA! I felt relieved that someone had taken the time to manage not to be as obvious as so many others.

I guess the moral of the story is: TRY! Just try to check someone out without them knowing. At the end of the day, you got to see what you wanted and no one was offended!

Okay. So now my mind is clear. I’m sending positive energy your way!  Thanks for spending your time reading my post!

Peace for All!

Mika

Race and Politics July 15, 2008

So, Now that I am back in the States, and not taking more classes I have much more time to watch t.v. and in particular, catch up on current events. As I am sure that most of you know there was a new issue of New Yorker magazine that hit news stands this week depicting Sen. Obama and his Wife Michelle, as millitant, American Hating, muslim loving extremist. hahahahaha..all this stuff is so crazy and I think it is really sad that this stuff is out. Now I understand why obama was angry and condemed them. I don’t particularly understand why the New Yorker but this on the cover, but does nothing to combat the rhetoric in its magazine, all they do is give a biography of him. While it’s good to explain about his life, so that people can know him, you should follow with the cover story. Also, I think that the Obama campaign should also use this to explain the myths out there too. Mainly, because people do believe this stuff. Its due to the media and radio, people who are ignorant and are hell bent on destroying him. What happened to fair politics?…oh wait, there is no such thing….

 

Yesturday evening, Sentor Obama was in Cincinnati, my home town and he spoke at the NAACP convention. I was so glad that they showed it on t.v. because I had no idea that he was going to be in the area. The speech was amazing. I started to get a little shoked up because I felt how historic this was for the Convention, the City, and for myself. It is such a monumentus event because here is someone who looks like me, who can cross party lines and all barriers to make an issue everybodies issue, it isn’t about being black or white, its about being a citizen of this country. He also talked about self responsibility, that it is up to Parents and young adults to take care of themselves and there children, to learn to be accountable. It is important to be a community, to take care of one another, but how can you help someone if they don’t want to help themselves. Another big point he made was about education. I am a college student and I graduate this fall, FINALLY. I went through the public schools in cincinnati and I was one of those kids that recieved the “voucher”. The schools that I went to barely had books, some places were warn down at times and alot of the kids didn’t get the ecucation that was necessary to do well. I was lucky to have wonderful teachers, who cared about me and encouraged me, but those kids dont and alot of the teachers aren’t paid well. Obama stressed the issue of investing in our education system, because I am the future, the kids who came before me and who will come after me, are the future.

So, I am biased and I do support him. I just want people to understand that its important to be open minded, to learn where you come from and to make the right decision. I’m not saying support him, I’m just saying learn about the facts. All the stupid things that have come out in this campaign so far are unnecessary and useless when we are talking about our future…Thanks Obama

Let me know what you think, exercise your first amendment right!

Thanks for reading

Peace, love, holding it down,

Jade xoxoxX

Supposed Sex Predators Being Provoked? by Mika July 14, 2008

Yesterday, I picked up a free newspaper on my university campus. I usually can’t read much of what the local writers have to offer, but this paper caught my eye. The front cover was dark blue with a man and a woman on it. The man had his hands in his pockets and was looking down at his feet as if feeling ashamed. The woman looked distessed as if someone just told her that her toothbrush was used to clean a public toilet. To top this off, the huge letters read, “The Shadow of Addiction”. With sex always on my mind, I naturally stoped and picked it up. As I read, I became more and more convinced that the writer had no idea of what he/she was scribbling about. It started off in a broad sense, explaining to the reader that chatrooms, prostitution, porn, and other ways of communication leads to damaged friendships and relationships; a way for the sex addicts to get their “fix”… and I’m thinking, these are some of the things that I do on a semi-frequent basis(not prostitution). I am not damaged; neither are my friends or family.

The article takes a turn, saying that sex predators are caught by police, posing as underage “innocent” children. PLEASE don’t get me wrong. I agree with our system that underage kids(with the mindset of our society) are off limits… but I think that In some cases, these so-called predators are being provoked. I’m comparing it to a hell-bound “sinner” who has converted to Christianity and is trying to “live right”. (Please keep in mind that I am not a Christain. I respectfully oppose religion) If I’m that converted Christian’s athiest best friend and I disagreed with the change he/she was making, I’d try my hardest to persuade  him/her not to make this change. I’d take that person out for drinks, or to a strip club, engage in pre-marital sex, and what ever else I could think of. If he/she folds under the pressure and comes back to the “dark side”, whose fault was it, theirs or mine?… The same question, I think, goes for some Sex “Predators” that have been caught by the police. If that diguised officer hadn’t been in that chatroom to engage the situation, would the situation have ever occured? As I type this, I question myself further.

My argument is similar to that of protestors against the police force in the Tom Cruise movie, The Minority Report. Is it better to catch them with a decoy than to catch them with the atcual unsuspecting boy or girl? Nowadays, with all the wide spread news and the huge prime-time show about sex predators, is the underage child asking for trouble?

I guess It depends on how far into the circumstance the predator has gone.

And another thing; the writer used many and sometimes only the male pronoun. Is the writer saying that the only people who can be addicted to sex are men? Maybe I should be angry with the morbid artist who supplied the misleading pictures…. IDK… Just a thought.

Thanks for spending your time reading my post.

Peace For All,

Mika

Obama Family Interview + Presidential Race= nO REAL nEWS! July 10, 2008

oK! So yesturday I found my blood pressure rising and my heart raising because of all this coverage of the Presidential Race. Barak Obama and His wife Michelle, along with their two daughters did an interview with Access Hollywood. All of a sudden the media went into a frenzy and so did I. “What the hell is the big deal” I thought. Everyone was giving Obama slack because he allowed his daughters to be interviewed. I thought that all hell broke lose, that everything was coming to an end, but no, the news media was hassling my homeboy…hahaha..I just said homeboy, don’t mind that….Anyway, I still don’t see what the big deal was, I was happy to see his family, I dont think that going on Access Hollywood was a good idea, but no one else is even better. They look real, they seem real and they seem genuine, I know its never been done before or that no one has ever seen the likes of a real presidential family since the Kennedy’s, but the past few presidental races have sucked. And now that there are two different types of candidates, espeically a young one, everyone goes crazy.

 

I especially want to stick it to Matt Louer of the “Today Show” Dude is such a loser, he tries so hard to report on real news and get the best interviews, while stickin it to the man. He totally hasseled Obama because he shared his family with the world. “Do you think it was a big mistake?” “Will you do it again?” I was ranting so much over Matt, He thinks that he is doing the universe (not the world..he is thinking big!) such a favor. what is so great about him? Meredith Verra has more creditentials than he does and so did Katie Couric.

I was also watching “The Daily Show” With Jon Stewart and he was talking about how the news was going crazy over Cindy MCcain’s Cookies, that she had stoolen a cookie recipe or it was “eriely” similar to another famous one, when they discovered that the difference was about the number of caramel chips she used in each patch “Then they must be F&*&(^&* Different!” Jon Stewart said yelling into the Camera! Then they were comparing the ladies popularity by what the wore and what shows they went on and if McCain and Obama had married them keeping in mind the amount of Electorial votes they would bring in a presidential race.

 

Then I thought to myself..”oneday I contemplated being a reporter, realizing that I would rather be on the front line of a war or reporting on a city (that has yet to be rebuilt and that has been ignored for 3 years.) or a famine. Just as long as it wasn’t as foolish as these things. We need real news people, yeah its hard to hear about devastation everyday, but come to think of it that’s why most don’t want to hear, beacause the media continues to report on crap and as long as we hear crap, we won’t do crap to solve our countries problems or our world’s problems…..”

Peace, one love, always holdin it down

Jade xoxoX

My New Mission in Life…Sort of! July 10, 2008

Well Helloooooooo People’s

I am finally back in the States and now I am trying to figure out what to do with myself. If Mika hasn’t told you already, I was off studying in Paris France for about a month. While I was there I had a chance to visit London and Florence. I feel different all of a sudden like a brand new person or more like I have a brand new perspective on things. Don’t worry! I am still the crazy, confused, lost, sexually frustrated girl you all know and love. However, I do feel compelled to be more forth coming with how I feel. I think that for the past couple of months that we have we doing our podcast on itunes and our websites and all the other stuff we got going, that I havent truley been able to express myself more clearly. I know your thinking…”Dude, we know your weird by know, what else is there?” Well there is alot!…Now, I am not going to divolge all my secrets, because mystery is a sexy thing and I don’t want to go to Jail, but I do feel that this is a good way for me to learn to be honest with the people around me that I know and love, with you the audience, and most importantly with myself..sooo here we go….

When I first began my stay in France, Started studying, and meeting new people, I was hoping that I would have a revelation about my life. I wanted to figure out what it was that I wanted, to have a dream or goal and do it. But after a while nothing came. I began to feel depressed and lonely, I felt like I was too confused and that nothing would change. Most of all, here I was in this beautiful city, a place of wonder, and I found nothing. All my life I wanted to travel, I wanted to see the world, meet new people, maybe have an affair or 2 or 3or alot:) and explore, but I lost it. “What’s wrong with me?” I beat myself up for not knowing what I wanted. I have always known my desires and if I lost it I was always able to find something else to replace it. People can be cruel in this world,, rude and disruptive, most importanly disrespectful. I found alot of those people in Paris, not the French themselves, but the group that I traveled with, such as my Roommates (BITCHES-WITH A CAPITAL “B”), other foreigners, and pigeons aka Rat’s with wings (they were everywhere). So, I learned to adapt. I really wanted to make friends, something that I never persude in my life, I really craved absorbing everything but I didn’t want to do it alone, ultimalty I didnt have a choice. I was alone. I was gone everyweekend to travel with my best friend, who I missed dearly and we went through hell and back in London and then in Florence (with a horrible person that I shall not name at this point but I will mention him and discuss him in future notes) and then I stayed in Paris for my final two weekends. I got so much slack for traveling. I was told that the reason why my roommates didnt want to be my friend was because I chose to travel, even though I took two classes with them, slept in the same room with them and ate with them, they suddenly stopped talking to me and decided I wasn’t worthy. Then they would to things like talk Loud while I was sleeping, to name a few! So I learned to do other things and I met other kids who were in different programs at other universities that stayed at my hostel. They were supper nice and there was a cute guy(had a girl friend, damn!) and I went out on my own.

I had fun exploring the museums, catching the Metro(train) and thinking. I could make the rules, be independent, and be a woman. I wasn’t affraid. I made the decision, that this is my chance, I wasn’t in Kansas anymore(not my real place of residence, just a metaphor) and this was me being what I always wanted to be ALIVE! it felt good, I felt free, I didnt care what people thought, I was me…

My mission list

1. take chances (like, if you wanna go somewhere do it, even alone is ok)

2. the next time someone shuves you or bumps into you, shuve them back, and if it turns into a fight well kick there ass, self defense!

3. Talk to thy cute guy, when that cute guy notices theee (actually this is number 2 of the “Hey! r u, like, totally checking me out?” rule book on girls life…special shout out to Mika for the great title, you are my inspiration!)

4. do something for yourself…meaning, you don’t have to worry about your family or friends all the time, whether or not you should get them this or that, and if you want to buy yourself something, do it!

5. Love Thy self and thy self will be happy…Corny indeed, but very true. I stuggle with it constantly, I think all 20something girls do, guys and no matter what your age. You have to take it one step at a time, don’t use perfection as a means to be satisfied.

In the end I did learn something from Paris. These aren’t meant to be in a specific order, they are what they are, so let them be. I hope I can live by them and I hope that I can add to them. I can’t wait to share more with you and Please let me know what you think:)

Peace, one love, always holdin it down!

JADE xoxoX